i will look for it, is there a usually mounting spot for it?

looked for it at the connector but only stock wires there and no sign of the module,
is it possible it is a code problem as you said before, i dont want to spend money to ship it if i'm just going to have the same problems

If it has one, Ive always seen them mounted to the body kind of under the pass door area. U'll also see wires coming from the connector going to that box

ok the truck has seemed to "learn" and the trans is shifting better is this possible?
It is still noticeable.

Perhaps you've become accustomed to the shifting.